Cross Dressing – Do I Need to Tell My Wife?
Talking to a loved one about your cross dressing can be very difficult, especially if you have never come out to anyone before. When and how you decide to speak with your partner is up to you. Before holding onto that secret forever, just know that it can be especially embarrassing if you are out late at night and something happens that lands you in the hospital. God forbid, but accidents do happen, and in my experience they tend to happen at the worst possible moment. Your wife may experience the double shocker of having to meet you at the hospital AND finding you dressed in women’s clothing.
Most men who cross dress describe their relationships with their wives as being very close. Certainly you don’t want to do anything to hurt that. Hiding your cross dressing from her long term, after you’ve become comfortable with it yourself, only serves to drive a communications wedge in your marriage. If you value your relationship, I’m sure you understand how important open and honest communication is to maintaining it. While she may be surprised at first, if your relationship is good she will value your openness. If you don’t have a good relationship with your wife, counseling or some other form of help may be in order for you as a couple if you intend on staying married.
Just remember, coming out is your choice, but there are accidents and mishaps that happen that might take this choice out of your hands. When you are ready, it is better if you have this discussion with your wife yourself, rather than her finding out. If she finds out on her own, you may have to deal with her loosing trust in you because of hiding from her. Secrets kill relationships, cross dressing doesn’t.
This article is so true I told my fiance the first couple of weeks after we started dating, and to my suprise she was ok with this. I would recomend telling ur partner before your engaged or married. It worked for me, and it may work for you. I found out that this is life long, and that’s not from reading diff articles, it from experience.
@Nick – I am so glad that your experience with telling your fiance about cross dressing went well. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t but in the relationships I’ve seen, they are much better when she knows rather than thinking maybe you are sneaking around with someone else. If she’s not ok with your cross dressing, maybe the relationship isn’t ok to begin with?
Best of luck in your upcoming marriage!